The image of his slender, ebony fingers writing words of support to Brenda brought the hot sting of tears to my eyes.
How different these hands are from the ones that used to touch Brenda.
I first met Brenda in prison in the fall of 2013 when she enrolled in the Talk to Me Writing class I was volunteer facilitating for Truth Be Told. She spoke very little and mostly kept to herself. I remember finding small joy in the moments she would make eye contact with me or offer a quick smile. Over eight weeks in Talk to Me, she and the other women in her class learned how to write and share the story of what they believe led them to prison.
In those same eight weeks, I was also learning.
I learned how hands can break bones and the human spirit.
I learned how hands can violate and reduce.
I learned how hands can leave scars undetectable to the eye.
I learned how hands can erect walls around the heart.
I learned how hands can pave roads to very dark places.
I learned how hands can self-inflict pain, because pain is most familiar.
I also learned — with certainty during that semester — that my hands are capable of holding space for sharing difficult truths. My hands can build a foundation for safe community. My hands can plant seeds of hope in soil long left unattended.
I witnessed Brenda and her fellow classmates using their hands to remove the masks that no longer felt true in their hearts and to unearth the wisdom in their stories. I witnessed Brenda letting go of what haunted her and gathering the courage to write new chapters in her life story.
At graduation, she took my breath away. In an unscripted moment, Brenda stepped up to the microphone and read a thank-you letter she had written to her classmates and me. I remember my heart knocking against my ribcage as she spoke. Here stood a woman who, only eight weeks before, admitted to me that she was learning to read and write and wasn’t sure she could participate in the class. Here stood a woman who, only eight weeks before, did not speak unless spoken to.
Here stood a woman who, only eight weeks before, was invisible to me but now stood before me as one of my greatest teachers.
Brenda helped me to see what I am capable of evoking in others. She ignited in me a fire that continues to burn. Through witnessing her journey, I gained clarity about the path I am to walk in my life.
So, last week, when I saw the image of those slender, ebony fingers writing words of support to Brenda, I broke down and cried.
Those hands belong to Edwin Medearis, a Truth Be Told board member. Edwin is one of many in Truth Be Told’s “beyond bars” community who signed a quilt made especially for Brenda, who was diagnosed with breast cancer in October and started chemotherapy in November.
Because of the choices she has made since being released from prison in 2014, Brenda has a very different kind of community surrounding her now. She is not alone as she fights the cancer that has spread to her lymph nodes. She has her Truth Be Told community, her church community and her school community. She has people who uplift her, who remind her of how far she has come, who support her sobriety, and who encourage the changes she wants to see in her life. She has people who will hold her hand, pray with her, laugh with her, and listen.
Yes, these are very different hands that touch Brenda’s life today, and she is the one who made it happen. She used the tools that were offered to her to create a life worth living … and now worth fighting for.